To many women, the notion that that there are rules for dating men seems absurd. After all, don't all men basically want the same thing and care little about anything else after the dating parade stops?
It may seem like that, after all, men are very basic and are driven by simple, uncomplicated desires. Sex being one of them! Unfortunately, men don't understand that sex can get very complicated and thus create an emotional battlefield down the road.
While it is true that this is not always the case, a woman's needs are totally different from a man's. And because women don't realize that men don't think at all the same, they can easily get flustered and fed up with the dating game.
It is therefore a good suggestion to set up some rules for dating men to avoid the letdown of expectations unfulfilled.
#1 - Don't assume he knows what you are thinking. Men seem to miss the boat on reading minds, body language and taking hints. It's sad, but henpecking is a global problem for a good reason. Accept that this is fundamental in how men are wired.
#2 - You can't understand a man if you do all the talking. - Ask questions to find out what's on his mind besides sex. But not too many questions. That will make him run for the hills to protect of his emotions which he is still (like many of us) trying to figure out.
#3 - After some romance, don't assume he doesn't care for you just because he rolls over and goes to bed, or doesn't care to cuddle for an hour. His loving you doesn't stop here.This is a reaction that even many men themselves are at a loss to explain. It may seem to have to do however, with the tremendous emotional outpouring that a man goes through and a sense of ensuing vulnerability. Too deep for this article but nevertheless, a reality.
#4 - Keep the makeup at a minimum. Men love beautiful women, but not when it is comprised of a mask of cosmetic goop. Some men even see it as whorish-looking and will react accordingly. If this is what you want, ignore this rule.
#5 -
Don't mother a man. If he is feeling unwell, some compassion and tenderness are important. But mothering will displace your purpose in his life and he will start responding to you like he does to his mother. If you want never to have sex again, disregard this rule. Remember, you want to be his friend AND lover!
#6 - Accept that many men have a streak of immaturity and infantile behaviour (usually at the most public times). This is a method to de-stress, throw caution to the wind and feel young and free. Things that both men and women want but address differently.
#7 - Try and play often with your man, lest you both fall into a deadly and unromantic routine of simply work and sleep. Play is the act of staying young, exciting, adventurous, curious, competitive and even sexy. That's what games and sports and vacations are all about. This is where you don't have to be an adult overloaded with responsibilty and seriousness!
#8 - Kiss your man for absolutely no reason. It tells him you think he is special in your life.
#9 - Remember that booze can turn up the volume of a man's lips way before the brain knows what's going on. Spare yourself the indignity of hanging with a man who can't control his liquor and set him straight from the get go. You will do both of you a big favor!
#10 - Offer more than you ask and listen more than you talk. A good rule for both sexes that goes a long way to showing how much you really care.
In the past dating rules were clear and understood by most, but today everything is different. Fortunately, people can turn to dating services that can help them understand the present rules of dating especially the rules for dating men.
To get started dating and applying these rules, you can check out the many dating sites we feature. Many offer free trials so that you can post your profile, look around and get your feet wet. By understanding some of the rules for dating men you will have an easier time communicating and understanding what is really going on.
Give it a try. It can be loads of fun! |
